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I agree. It's not actor gossip, just an article about actors in general. And didn't Spanky decree that discussing factual information about the actors' public/professional lives is okay, as in say, X got a cool role in Y, yay aren't we excited? Don't quote me on that though, could be faulty memory.
Anyway, interesting read.
Anyway, interesting read.
There are days when I feel so ugly. And the problem is, I am ugly so it's a problem of acceptance and dealing with it. I'm ok with it about 80% of the time. So not always. Anyway. How do you see yourselves, nonnies? Do you have healthy body images? (meh, this is probably a stupid topic to talk about)
I think when I was younger I thought I was ugly. TBH even though I'm still young I have a hard time remembering much from my younger years. RN I know I'm pretty though I don't invest much in my appearance so it's possible some people think I'm a butterface. I def have a hot body though, and if I bothered to wear make up/do my hair no one could say I'm ugly. My body image is fine, I guess, though I don't like how thin and bony my arms are. Generally I wish I was more muscular and I'd like to take steps towards that.
Not really, sadly. IDK, I don't think I'm ugly, but I'm fat. I'm lining up a string of disorders. I'm so depressed I just want to stay in bed the entire day. I am fat... and I'm starving myself, chewing and spitting my food, and purging occasionally. And of course I'm binging like crazy, wasting all my money. Technically, I'm on medication, but I feel worse and worse and I've started cutting again.
When I read blogs of other people, they usually say they hate themselves and that's their reason for doing these things. But I don't really hate myself. I think I'm an okay person. But I just can't deal with my surroundings. Xenophobia, people expecting too much of me, pressure, stress, loneliness... I don't hate myself, but I hate living.
Mostly, everything went to hell after school. I wasn't accepted at the college of my dreams, or rather my parents' dreams, feeling as if I disappointed my entire family. I have no goal in life. Why do I even exist, just wasting resources and wasting away. It's my second year in college, and I haven't made a single friend. Not a single one. I'm all alone in a strange country where I'm scared to speak because of my accent. My friends have their own lives and once my little brother goes through puberty, he'll just forget me too like my cousin did. And then nobody will need me anymore.
Sorry, this went way off-topic, but I thought I'd vent...
When I read blogs of other people, they usually say they hate themselves and that's their reason for doing these things. But I don't really hate myself. I think I'm an okay person. But I just can't deal with my surroundings. Xenophobia, people expecting too much of me, pressure, stress, loneliness... I don't hate myself, but I hate living.
Mostly, everything went to hell after school. I wasn't accepted at the college of my dreams, or rather my parents' dreams, feeling as if I disappointed my entire family. I have no goal in life. Why do I even exist, just wasting resources and wasting away. It's my second year in college, and I haven't made a single friend. Not a single one. I'm all alone in a strange country where I'm scared to speak because of my accent. My friends have their own lives and once my little brother goes through puberty, he'll just forget me too like my cousin did. And then nobody will need me anymore.
Sorry, this went way off-topic, but I thought I'd vent...
Huh, other!me is in the OT Post as well. But I have three types of days appearance wise to split up my thoughts on my body.
Normal days- I'm not anything ~special~, or, I have as many appealing features as bad.
Bad Days- Ugh, why did I go out this morning!!1- I need a bag over my head/TONS OF FOUNDATION I NEVER USE!!!!!
Awesome days- "Oh yeah, I would so totally do me." Also days I don't want to leave my room (because I won't stop ogling myself naked with my mirror).
Most of the days I hit normal, but every once in a while I get an awesome of shit day. I like to think it evens out.
Additional info, hmmm. Totally fat (280 lbs roughly, but tall), Black, and uh. 19 yr old virgin. So yeah. IDK, sometimes I think I am the total shit and sometimes I think I am Nothing!!1 and will scrounge up petty bits of evidence to prove it.
Normal days- I'm not anything ~special~, or, I have as many appealing features as bad.
Bad Days- Ugh, why did I go out this morning!!1- I need a bag over my head/TONS OF FOUNDATION I NEVER USE!!!!!
Awesome days- "Oh yeah, I would so totally do me." Also days I don't want to leave my room (because I won't stop ogling myself naked with my mirror).
Most of the days I hit normal, but every once in a while I get an awesome of shit day. I like to think it evens out.
Additional info, hmmm. Totally fat (280 lbs roughly, but tall), Black, and uh. 19 yr old virgin. So yeah. IDK, sometimes I think I am the total shit and sometimes I think I am Nothing!!1 and will scrounge up petty bits of evidence to prove it.
I'm trans, so loads of body issues. I'm kind of comfortable with my face lately, though. I'm never going to be good-looking, but I kind of look like myself now? It's like I never had a face before, and now I do.
I have a fairly healthy body image. My biggest problem is reconciling my current body with my body of 5-10 years ago. I was naturally thin when I was younger and then, a couple years ago, I got diagnosed with a thyroid disorder. Between that and just growing older, I've gained about 20 pounds. For the most part, I love my body, but there still times when I get frustrated that I'm not in the same shape I was.
I also went up a few bra sizes with the weight gain. I was busty to begin with, so bra shopping is a freaking horror. Seriously, I spent 2 hours trying on bras the other day, and I couldn't find anything that a) fit b) was comfortable c) cost less than $100. It's frustrating as hell, and because the problem is my band size, all the bras I have are too big, and I spend all day shifting around and pulling the back of my bra down. (Sorry, OT. I just hate bra shopping.)
I also went up a few bra sizes with the weight gain. I was busty to begin with, so bra shopping is a freaking horror. Seriously, I spent 2 hours trying on bras the other day, and I couldn't find anything that a) fit b) was comfortable c) cost less than $100. It's frustrating as hell, and because the problem is my band size, all the bras I have are too big, and I spend all day shifting around and pulling the back of my bra down. (Sorry, OT. I just hate bra shopping.)
If you live in the U.S., it'd probably be cheaper just to hire a seamstress to make you a few bras. Plus, you'd definitely gets ones that fit that way.
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Do you have particular business in mind? I would like to know these things...
/has a G/H cup
Do you have particular business in mind? I would like to know these things...
/has a G/H cup
ayrt You can do that? That never would have occurred to me. How does one find a bra making seamstress?
ayrt
Oh nonnie :( I'd be your friend if I was over there. Have you thought maybe of going to a therapist? So you can talk about these things outloud. I think it'd help. Maybe you already have, though.
Oh nonnie :( I'd be your friend if I was over there. Have you thought maybe of going to a therapist? So you can talk about these things outloud. I think it'd help. Maybe you already have, though.
ayrt
I know what you mean. It's weird how fast my opinion can change about how I look.
Thank you very much for sharing, nonnie!
I know what you mean. It's weird how fast my opinion can change about how I look.
Thank you very much for sharing, nonnie!
ayrt
I'm glad :) I can't imagine how difficult it must be feel like your body isn't the right gender. It goes beyond being pretty or not.
I'm sorry if I'm being offensive with my clumsy words.
I'm glad :) I can't imagine how difficult it must be feel like your body isn't the right gender. It goes beyond being pretty or not.
I'm sorry if I'm being offensive with my clumsy words.
ayrt
Thank you for your kind words. <3 I've thought of it. In fact, my GP suggested it, if the medication doesn't help (and well, it doesn't.) But I don't really know how to do this. I mean, I'm not at home, I don't know if I have to pay for it or anything, and I'm not really sure if it would help. I've called a couple of helplines last week, and I thought it would be good to talk... but afterwards I just felt awkward and crappy. Also, my not being at home means that I can only call friends via Skype, and they're not always online... and I don't want to make them worry or pressure them by saying something like, "Get on skype now because I think I might kill myself!" (which I'd never say but is pretty much what I feel... I mean, not in a co-dependent/threatening way, I've been through that myself and it wasn't fun at all, but in a "please just talk to me about random stuff, make me laugh so that these thoughts go away" way).
I kind of wish I could tell me parents... I'm sure they'll take it seriously, because my mum is a nurse, my uncle is a psychiatrist and my grandfather is depressed. It's unlikely that they'll go all "Oh, you're just imagining it" or "just toughen up". But I'm kind of scared that they'll blame me for it or go to uncomfortable extents to fix it, mainly by having me quit college here. And in a way, I do want to quit college. Damn my stupid subject choice. But as I said, it's my second year, and if I quit, I'd feel guilty for wasting all that money... but I just don't feel capable of studying right now. Ughhh, I don't know what to do.
Sorry for going overboard with the rant again. D:
Thank you for your kind words. <3 I've thought of it. In fact, my GP suggested it, if the medication doesn't help (and well, it doesn't.) But I don't really know how to do this. I mean, I'm not at home, I don't know if I have to pay for it or anything, and I'm not really sure if it would help. I've called a couple of helplines last week, and I thought it would be good to talk... but afterwards I just felt awkward and crappy. Also, my not being at home means that I can only call friends via Skype, and they're not always online... and I don't want to make them worry or pressure them by saying something like, "Get on skype now because I think I might kill myself!" (which I'd never say but is pretty much what I feel... I mean, not in a co-dependent/threatening way, I've been through that myself and it wasn't fun at all, but in a "please just talk to me about random stuff, make me laugh so that these thoughts go away" way).
I kind of wish I could tell me parents... I'm sure they'll take it seriously, because my mum is a nurse, my uncle is a psychiatrist and my grandfather is depressed. It's unlikely that they'll go all "Oh, you're just imagining it" or "just toughen up". But I'm kind of scared that they'll blame me for it or go to uncomfortable extents to fix it, mainly by having me quit college here. And in a way, I do want to quit college. Damn my stupid subject choice. But as I said, it's my second year, and if I quit, I'd feel guilty for wasting all that money... but I just don't feel capable of studying right now. Ughhh, I don't know what to do.
Sorry for going overboard with the rant again. D:
AYRT
You're not being offensive. You seem sweet. Thanks anon :)
You're not being offensive. You seem sweet. Thanks anon :)
I was kinda funky looking before I got a nose job and a Brazilian blowout. I also became a vegan and went on birth control and lost like 30 pounds and went up a cup size.
If you don't like something about yourself, fix it. You only live once.
If you don't like something about yourself, fix it. You only live once.
You don't have to answer if this is too intrusive, but are you on hormones?
AYRT
This question would be intrusive if we were talking unanon, but here I don't care. I am, and they help a lot.
This question would be intrusive if we were talking unanon, but here I don't care. I am, and they help a lot.
My friend is a trans and she's obsessed with the idea of 'passing' in public. IDK if that's a prevalent issue in the trans community but it fucking sucks that some people are so judgmental. A trans woman got fired from our local Barnes & Noble because of customer complaints; they issued a statement saying that wasn't the reason, but alll of the employees have told me that that's just a way for them to cover their asses.
I wasn't accepted at the college of my dreams, or rather my parents' dreams, feeling as if I disappointed my entire family. I have no goal in life. Why do I even exist, just wasting resources and wasting away.
You're complaining about the fact that you didn't get accepted to some top tier Ivy? Do you know how many people would kill to go to any sort of college?
I mean, sorry that things are so hard for you, but have some perspective. And wallowing isn't going to solve any of your problems.
You're complaining about the fact that you didn't get accepted to some top tier Ivy? Do you know how many people would kill to go to any sort of college?
I mean, sorry that things are so hard for you, but have some perspective. And wallowing isn't going to solve any of your problems.
AYRT
The community is divided about passing and how appropriate it is to examine our appearances under that paradigm, but with cis people, it's safer. It protects you from people who don't know and gets you questioned less by people who do. That can be valuable even to people who don't inherently care about passing.
I'm sorry to hear about the woman who lost her job. I hope she found another one somewhere better :(
The community is divided about passing and how appropriate it is to examine our appearances under that paradigm, but with cis people, it's safer. It protects you from people who don't know and gets you questioned less by people who do. That can be valuable even to people who don't inherently care about passing.
I'm sorry to hear about the woman who lost her job. I hope she found another one somewhere better :(
AYRT
Call local seamstresses and ask if they only do alterations or also make clothing. You might want to specify bras. If they don't, you can always ask if they know of someone who does.
At least in my area, a cheap living room seamstress will require you to provide a pattern and materials, and then charge a labor fee based on how long it takes, including fittings.
There's all kinds of bra patterns available, so it's just a matter of finding someone with the technical know-how to alter one for an unusual band/cup combination.
Call local seamstresses and ask if they only do alterations or also make clothing. You might want to specify bras. If they don't, you can always ask if they know of someone who does.
At least in my area, a cheap living room seamstress will require you to provide a pattern and materials, and then charge a labor fee based on how long it takes, including fittings.
There's all kinds of bra patterns available, so it's just a matter of finding someone with the technical know-how to alter one for an unusual band/cup combination.
AYRT
I don't have a particular business in mind. If you're just looking for some place to buy a larger bra and you're okay with ordering online, I tried biggerbras.com recently and was quite satisfied. One glitch: I ordered 2-day shipping, and didn't get my bra for 5 days. But they called me first thing in the morning on the third day without me having to call them, said there'd been a problem, and offered to refund my shipping fee and give me free shipping.
I don't have a particular business in mind. If you're just looking for some place to buy a larger bra and you're okay with ordering online, I tried biggerbras.com recently and was quite satisfied. One glitch: I ordered 2-day shipping, and didn't get my bra for 5 days. But they called me first thing in the morning on the third day without me having to call them, said there'd been a problem, and offered to refund my shipping fee and give me free shipping.
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