Nonny, you have to ask yourself two questions. Do you trust them, and do your expectations for what happens afterwards match theirs?
I had sex for the first time at 22, so I get where you're coming from about being a virgin. It was kind of a relief for me to finally have sex and not have to spend so much time thinking about whether or not I wanted to have sex with someone and when to have the talk when I was dating a new person about the fact that I was a virgin, blah, blah, blah. I'm from a religious family. I don't regret waiting, but I don't regret getting "the first time" over with either and not having that pressure anymore.
I was thinking my first time in trying to answer this question, and as far as the actual sex goes, I don't really remember it. I don't think it would have made a difference one way or the other if there had been another person. If the sex is all you care about, I don't think it makes a difference whether your first time is as part of a threesome or not.
What I do remember is after. We went to sleep together in my bed. The next day I woke up early, and there was a man in my bed! That was strange and weird, and I wasn't sure what to do with myself, so I went in the living room and read a book until he woke up. And then he came out of the bedroom, and he made breakfast for us while I got the sheets in the laundry and scrubbed the blood out of the mattress. Neither of us had to work that day, but we didn't have much money, so we just drove out to the lake and cuddled up in the car with the windows rolled down and watched the water. We spent the whole day together, and it was nice. Even though that relationship didn't last very long and ended badly, I wouldn't trade the memory of that day for all the tea in the world. And you're not going to get a day like that with a couple. You're probably not even going to go sleep in the same bed and have someone there when you wake up. And that might not be important to you. It all just depends on what your personal priorities are.
If you do decide to have sex, I will tell you what I wish someone had told me before my first time: Stretch!
Re: Threesome dilemma
I had sex for the first time at 22, so I get where you're coming from about being a virgin. It was kind of a relief for me to finally have sex and not have to spend so much time thinking about whether or not I wanted to have sex with someone and when to have the talk when I was dating a new person about the fact that I was a virgin, blah, blah, blah. I'm from a religious family. I don't regret waiting, but I don't regret getting "the first time" over with either and not having that pressure anymore.
I was thinking my first time in trying to answer this question, and as far as the actual sex goes, I don't really remember it. I don't think it would have made a difference one way or the other if there had been another person. If the sex is all you care about, I don't think it makes a difference whether your first time is as part of a threesome or not.
What I do remember is after. We went to sleep together in my bed. The next day I woke up early, and there was a man in my bed! That was strange and weird, and I wasn't sure what to do with myself, so I went in the living room and read a book until he woke up. And then he came out of the bedroom, and he made breakfast for us while I got the sheets in the laundry and scrubbed the blood out of the mattress. Neither of us had to work that day, but we didn't have much money, so we just drove out to the lake and cuddled up in the car with the windows rolled down and watched the water. We spent the whole day together, and it was nice. Even though that relationship didn't last very long and ended badly, I wouldn't trade the memory of that day for all the tea in the world. And you're not going to get a day like that with a couple. You're probably not even going to go sleep in the same bed and have someone there when you wake up. And that might not be important to you. It all just depends on what your personal priorities are.
If you do decide to have sex, I will tell you what I wish someone had told me before my first time: Stretch!