Have you tried talking to your friends about it? I know it sounds obvious, but sometimes people need to be told you're feeling neglected. I've known my two closest friends for roughly 15 years a piece, and I still have to poke them every once in a while to make sure we spend time together.
If I've learned anything as I've gotten older, it's that relationships take a shit ton of effort on everyone's part. Sometimes the people you end up spending the most time with are the people who are the easiest to get a hold of or make plans with. I have a lot of friends from school, high school and college, who I still love dearly, but haven't seen or spoken to in ages, between my busy schedule and general laziness. When I do finally speak with them, I often feel guilty, despite the fact that they hadn't been reaching out to me, either. Over the years, I've learned to suck it up, and reach out to the people I want to keep in contact with and stop waiting for them to reach out to me. I have yet to get ahold of an old friend who wasn't genuinely happy to hear from me. Making friends is hard for most people, especially as they get older.
As for new friends, I've made one in the past five years. He's awesome, and we probably have more in common than most of my old friendships, but we also met at work, and I'm not sure where I'd start, if I wanted to make more friends.
Re: Me and My Issues
If I've learned anything as I've gotten older, it's that relationships take a shit ton of effort on everyone's part. Sometimes the people you end up spending the most time with are the people who are the easiest to get a hold of or make plans with. I have a lot of friends from school, high school and college, who I still love dearly, but haven't seen or spoken to in ages, between my busy schedule and general laziness. When I do finally speak with them, I often feel guilty, despite the fact that they hadn't been reaching out to me, either. Over the years, I've learned to suck it up, and reach out to the people I want to keep in contact with and stop waiting for them to reach out to me. I have yet to get ahold of an old friend who wasn't genuinely happy to hear from me. Making friends is hard for most people, especially as they get older.
As for new friends, I've made one in the past five years. He's awesome, and we probably have more in common than most of my old friendships, but we also met at work, and I'm not sure where I'd start, if I wanted to make more friends.